8 Things the Dutch find Rude (2024)

29/6/2015

8 Things the Dutch find Rude (1)

When living overseas it’s always a good idea to have an idea of how to act, and of what type of behaviour is acceptable, and what isn’t. Here are 8 things that won’t win you any friends in the Netherlands.

1.Telling someone what to do – the Dutch are allergic to hierarchy. Telling someone what to do may well backfire and probably won’t have the desired result. Ask nicely… it makes a huge difference.

2. Avoiding eye contact – For those of you old (or young!) enough to remember the Karate Kid films, Mr Miyagi was fond of telling Daniel-san to “always look eye!” Not looking someone in the eye when speaking to him or her can appear mistrustful, as if you have something to hide. When addressing/greeting someone, remember, “Always look eye!”

3. Calling on someone unannounced - In general the Dutch don’t appreciate people turning up at their doorsteps unannounced… no matter how well meant. If you don’t already have an “appointment” to meet someone call beforehand to see if it is okay.

4. Forgetting the handshake – despite the appearance of informality in the Netherlands the Dutch love an old handshake. The first time you meet someone always extend your hand and say your first and last name. At business meetings and social occasions hands are usually shook both before and at the end of the event.

5. Being indirect in your communication– the Dutch value openness and honesty more than politeness. Beating around the bush can at best lead to misunderstanding and at worst lead to mistrust.

6. Asking personal questions – The Dutch are quite a reserved lot, avoid very personal questions until you know someone quite well.

7. Not saying your name on the phone – whether you’re talking to a person’s secretary, the CEO of a company or an Internet provider telephonist you always say your name before launching into the purpose of your call.

8. Acting like you are better than anyone else – because you’re not!

8 Things the Dutch find Rude (2024)

FAQs

8 Things the Dutch find Rude? ›

Compared to most cultures, the Dutch are reserved in public and do not often touch each other, they maintain the proper distance, and do not use exaggerated gesticulations. However, having your hands in your pockets might be interpreted as a sign of disinterest.

What are the manners of the Dutch people? ›

Compared to most cultures, the Dutch are reserved in public and do not often touch each other, they maintain the proper distance, and do not use exaggerated gesticulations. However, having your hands in your pockets might be interpreted as a sign of disinterest.

What is typical Dutch Behaviour? ›

Dutch people are usually very open, friendly and welcoming. In the Netherlands, only parents and children live together. In general, they do not live with grandparents, aunts, and uncles. During meals, Dutch families usually share their adventures of the day. In Dutch homes, all family members share chores.

What are Dutch people known for? ›

Dutch people are known for their spirit of commerce, open-mindedness towards people from different countries, international ambitions and innovative ways of thinking. The ideal place for international education.

Do and don'ts in the Netherlands? ›

Avoid Arrogance: Dutch people dislike arrogance, so avoid coming across as superior or boastful. Humility is appreciated, and displaying arrogance may lead to negative perceptions. 2. Show Tolerance: The Netherlands is known for its tolerance towards ethnic minorities and alternative lifestyles.

What are the 5 taboos? ›

The major examples of Taboo include incest, murder, cannibalism, the dead, and adultery.

What is considered rude in Dutch? ›

It is rude to speak whilst chewing gum. Knock before entering a room if the door is shut. Standing with your hands in your pockets can be considered impolite. Compliments are usually given in private directly to the person that deserves them.

How not to be rude in the Netherlands? ›

The Dutch consider it rude not to identify yourself. The Dutch will shake hands and say their last name, not "Hello." They also answer the telephone with their last name. It is considered impolite to shout a greeting. Wave if greeting someone from a distance.

What are the two types of Dutch people? ›

In Dutch, the cultural division between North and South is also referred to by the colloquialism "below/above the great rivers" as the rivers Rhine and Meuse roughly form a natural boundary between the Northern Dutch (those Dutch living North of these rivers), and the Southern Dutch (those living South of them).

What are Dutch relationships like? ›

When it comes to building relationships, the Dutch like to take things slow and move with caution. As a result, it might take several weeks or months of dating before two people officially call themselves a couple. And once they do develop a serious relationship, marriage isn't necessarily on the cards.

What do Dutch people value? ›

Freedom, equality and solidarity are very important in the 'Grondwet'. The Netherlands has also signed up to international human rights treaties (such as the European treaty for Human rights) which also encompass these values. In the Netherlands, you are responsible for making a living.

What is the Dutch mindset? ›

The Netherlands is a liberal country with a progressive outlook, and Dutch people are characteristically straightforward, pragmatic, and tolerant.

How do you know if a Dutch man likes you? ›

Most Dutch guys are pretty direct and straightforward. If you're not in constant contact with this person (i.e. a classmate, colleague or already friend), you will probably meet, end up chatting/drinking the night away, he will offer to bring you home and go in for the kiss (if not already happened).

What are Dutch beliefs? ›

No religion (58%) Catholicism (17%) Protestantism (13%) Islam (6%)

What is the Netherlands' most popular food? ›

1. Poffertjes. Probably one of the most famous Dutch dishes, Poffertjes are small pancakes, baked in an iron skillet, and traditionally served with melted butter and dusted with icing sugar. You can enjoy these all year round, but Christmas and New Year are typically the best times to have them.

What is the personality of a Dutch man? ›

Direct approach

Dutch people do not beat around the bush and will often speak their minds. This can seem rather rude and almost feel insulting to foreign people (e.g: 'I have read you report and it is awful').

What are the habits and customs of the Dutch? ›

Manners in the Netherlands

Dutch people always watch the clock and are very punctual. If you have been invited but are running late, let the other person know. The Dutch have a diary for appointments, which they call “agenda.” In general, they are unlikely to drop by uninvited or to expect you to drop by uninvited.

What is Dutch physical characteristics? ›

- Slim to athletic build with an active lifestyle and balanced diet. - Fair skin with a tendency to burn rather than tan due to the northern latitude and cloudy weather. - Straight or narrow nose and facial features resembling Germanic or Nordic ancestry. - Large head and pronounced cheekbones.

What is the Dutch communication style? ›

Verbal, direct and open

The Dutch are highly verbal communicators. Precise communication is important to them and they have a dislike for vagueness. They tend to put their whole message into words and will assume you to do the same. Don't expect a Dutch person to read between the lines!

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